Wednesday, August 09, 2006
The little I know about friendship...
The little I know about friendship:
It’s not about saying the same things. It’s disagreeing, even about everything, but learning to listen and accept differences as uniqueness. And that to listen, not just hear, especially when we admit (and we have to admit first!) we are being bullheaded.
It’s not about always being together. There may be a distance of one room or several oceans, and yet still feeling the closeness hasn’t changed.
It’s not always about sharing but also about separating. WE don’t lose ourselves by being in a relationship with another. We have our own needs to fulfill and in order to share, we have to have something to share first.
It’s about history. To have gone through many things together or apart and shared stories, involving the other in one’s life. Being part of another’s experiences even if it doesn’t physically involve you.
It’s about respecting that history. Knowing the depth of a relationship and how, even if it becomes obscure beside a new found love or career, it is that history that held you up to this moment to your new experiences.
It’s about remembering promises and keeping them. From “I’ll keep in touch” to the “I won’t betray you”.
It’s about talking and listening. But more of the latter.
It’s about silence. Companionship. When it doesn’t have to be noisy to be fun. Presence is enough.
It’s both about pettiness and seriousness. About joys and tears. Triumphs and trials. Dreams, wishes and risks.
Friendship is a whole lot of things between strangers becoming comrades. Not knowing why and when but happy that that it happened. It’s a whole lot in between but always based on trust. Always based on love.
tweenkies_1106 at 6:09 PM